A better birth...
I have had two children. The first birth was a nightmare. We are a military family, and my doctor relocated two days before I gave birth. My beautiful boy entered this world into a room full of strangers. I didn't even know the staff attending me. Furthermore, I had a terrible tear - the worst possible - and was used for suture practice(by three different people). Needless to say the outcome was horrible. Five years later I still have issues from this birth.
My second birth was the exact opposite experience. It took me four years to become pregnant. Not because we couldn't, but because I was afraid of the process (yes, a process or experiment, not the joyful experience everyone hopes for). This time I had a midwife.
Wow! What a difference! She was/is more than my health care provider. She has become my friend. She cared for me in a way I had never experienced in the medical field. She listened, I mean really listened, to what happened in my first birth. She also listened to personal issues that occurred throughout my pregnancy. She cared for me physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I wish ALL healthcare professionals treated patients this way.
In the end, my second birth was a joy. My midwife did not actually deliver my baby, but everyone on her team knew me and the issues I has with the first birth. This time, my baby was born into a room of love - and I didn't tear at all ( awesome midwives!). I hope that everyone can experience the special touch of a midwife. They truly are angels.